According to statistics, 10 percent of all women have never had an orgasm. Not by masturbation and not with a partner. It is more common than most people know. In fact, studies have learned that only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse.
So, why do we feel so bad about it? Our partners feel that they are not doing the job, that we are not “into” them or maybe something is wrong with our bodies. Female sexuality is far more complicated than male sexuality, and it involves more effort when it comes to achieving orgasms. Of course, there is the obvious, their genitals are out in the open. It also doesn’t help that we are living in a society where the thought of women being sexual creatures is still somewhat foreign. This type of thinking can cause shame, especially for women who are attempting to have an orgasm through masturbation. The reality is that there is no shame in pleasuring yourself.
After reading the book, “Come as You Are: The surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life”, by Emily Nagoski Ph.D., it became evident to me that orgasm for women cannot be put into a category of the haves and have nots. It is a far more complicated topic. I recommend this book for all to read, but especially for those who struggle with having orgasms or their partner (female) struggles, have not achieved one or wants to figure out how to do it better. Read a few pages of this and you will be hooked.